When a Lack of Boundaries Creates Walls
October 21st, 2008 by Kelly KingFirst, let me say sorry, oh great blogosphere. I have failed miserably in my recommitment to you. No excuses this time, but it was so bad that I had to look up my password for this thing. Now that’s some brutal honesty. It’s painful, really.
Anyway, I was motivated to post today because I’ve had enough. I think it’s safe to say that most people are pretty over the election.
I think it’s clear that we are more than saturated with political debates, mudslinging, commercials, and satire. We all wish we could wake up tomorrow and it would be Nov. 4. The problem for me is not that it’s dragging, but rather that the messages are coming from all directions and in increasing quantities. And I’m not okay with it.
I don’t consider myself a private person. In fact, I think I’m a pretty open book. But when it comes to politics, I draw a line. I’m not sure why … but maybe it’s a learned behavior. When I used to go to the polls with my Dad after school, I’d wait patiently in the car with my brother (no doubt while he tortured me in some way). But as soon as my Dad returned, proudly displaying his “I Voted” sticker on his Izod sweater, I’d start shouting, “Who’d you vote for? Who’d you vote for?” And each time he would respond, “Voting is a very private matter, Kelly. As you get older, you’ll learn that it isn’t something you want to be asked about.”
Now, it seems like everyone has an opinion. And everyone is more than willing to share it. For example, I read a blog regularly that I really enjoy. But lately, it’s been salted with attacks on a certain candidate and those that support him. (Let me go ahead and say that I’m not willing to disclose my political affiliation or views on the presidential candidates.) But I don’t read this blog to get political commentary. And I’m not interested in hearing one-sided outbursts about either candidate. I just wonder … what happened to the notion of my Dad’s generation that these things are personal? What happened to only saying something if you had something nice to say? And where did the idea go that you should keep your opinions to yourself unless asked?
I feel like I’m constantly surrounded by the rhetoric. Friends are tweeting about it. Other blogs I read that never mention politics are weighing in. I hear celebrities’ opinions through a multitude of media. And businesses are even putting up signs to show their support in one direction or another.
I understand that this is what’s going on in our nation right now and that people are going to talk about it. I understand that the internet and social media have broken down boundaries of communication. But I don’t understand why people feel the need to inject their opinions where they weren’t solicited, especially when they include so much animosity and anger. To me, politics is such a polarizing thing. And it’s so easy to disagree with someone, or even offend them. I’d much rather get information from reputable sources and discuss my thoughts and questions only amongst my closest family and friends. Because honestly, isn’t it my own personal decision based on my own set of values, beliefs and life experiences?
With the lack of boundaries on this topic, I feel like I’m having to erect walls. It makes me want to discontinue RSS feeds and relationships that I once cherished because, quite simply, I don’t want to know the depths of an acquaintance, author, business or actor’s political views. It seems like so many political messages are misplaced and I’m finding them where I least expect them. It really turns me off.
Am I the only one who feels this way? Does the introduction of politics into a conversation or setting make anyone else clam up?



